There’s a lot of talk about self-care lately. It’s the new buzz word in the wellness world.

Nobody feels like they get any self-care, and we all want some because it’s pretty clear that committing to self-care can help you live life to the fullest. Even though self-care is a trending topic (as it should be), at times it can seem impossible to actually take some of that much-needed time for yourself, in part because we often misunderstand it.

I hope this blog post can shine a light in some of the darker corners of self-care, so that you can reflect on what it will actually take for you. Without further adieu, here are FIVE self-care truths that will actually help you get more self-care.


  • Self-care is not a should, it’s a MUST.  It’s not another task you need to add to you to do list that you’re going to stress out over. I’m a busy mother of eight children and trying to run a business.  If anyone tries to tell me I need to add daily face masks to my routine, I will just laugh at them.  Here’s a self-care tip if you feel overwhelmed already: look at your list of tasks and see what you can cut out. Maybe self-care for you is less about adding something in and more about taking something out.


  • Self-care is a priority, not a luxury. If you have visions of spa days and luxurious massages in your head, you are missing the point of self-care. While a good facial or massage is an excellent self-care treat, it is not a necessary one. There are plenty of things you can do that don’t cost a thing – from sneaking away from the kids to taking a bath to sipping on a hot cup of tea without any distractions. How can you take a mini time out that won’t overhaul your day or your bank account?


  • Self-care means doing a good turn. Most people think of soothing and relaxing activities when they think of self-care. Let’s redefine self-care for just a moment: what if  your definition of self-care included activities that make life easier for your future self? I love nothing more than doing my tomorrow self a favor. It’s a great way to foster those feelings of doing a good deed – and the benefit is that not only am I serving, but I am also receiving. For example, I love filling up my tank of gas when it’s starting to get low as way to reduce stress for myself the next day. There’s nothing more irritating than being strapped for time and having to stop for gas.  I get a happiness boost in my day when I take the time to do something nice for my future self.


  • Self-care is not one-size fits all. We are all unique and enjoy different things. Your self-care does not have to look like anyone else’s. It’s important to know yourself enough to understand what self-care looks like for you. You might have such a rigid schedule that free time works better for you.  You might be the person who benefits greatly from incorporating more self-care routines into your day. Maybe you are focusing on improving sleep so going to bed an hour earlier is going to be nourishing to you. Or maybe, you are going to take an extra hour after the kids go to bed and do something just for you – read, meditate, or unwind with your favorite show. When it comes to self-care, you are the ultimate authority.


  • Self-care takes self-discipline.  Self-care won’t just fall in your lap. You have to be intentional about it. Know the type of things that refresh you, support you, help you relax, or make your life easier. Take a look at your day, your week, or your month and actually schedule some self-care in. If you are working to add a routine, like dressing up more or tidying up clutter, then consider what is blocking you from doing those things and work to change your habit. Self-care isn’t always the easy road, it often takes a little (or a lot!) of effort.


Did any of these five points resonate with you? Or do you already have a pretty good handle on self-care?  Write a comment and let us know how you are incorporating more self-care in 2019 – the year of YOU.